You Can Determine Your Own Reality
Over the years my work as a photography teacher has brought me into contact with a lot of interesting and highly motivated people. It's always great when, in such a tough industry, those who undertake formal studies as a means to find employment are able to transit from the world of a well-tendered student to that of an independent working photographer. The same is true for those wishing to establish a visual arts practice.
Working For The Man Is No Longer The Answer
Some, because of their own personality, talent and tenacity are able to make that transition without even completing formal studies. Others are good students but, not being able to find one of very few full-time positions in the industry and without the capabilities or desire to run their own business, flounder. For those folks jobs on the fringe of the industry (e.g., camera stores, distributors) or, alternatively, in an aligned industry may seem like the only solution.
But what's the point of spending years enrolled in tertiary based education programs only to find yourself working in retail. At the end of the day, with little energy or inspiration left, only the most passionate actually get back to making photos in what free time they have.
- Was your reason for undertaking that course of study to actually escape life for a while?
- Did you make the most of your opportunities there?
- Have you made room for creative passion to flourish, despite the constraints of work and family life, now you're back in the real world?
Teaching Is About Making A Difference
During my time as a teacher I've worked with literally thousands of people. Usually the relationship is mutually beneficial, they learn and I revel in that journey. Sometimes the student/teacher experience is so powerful, so very much in the moment, that time seems to stand still as critical understanding is experienced.
I’ve known this both as a student and as a teacher. I'II never forget my own favorite teachers over the years and the sacrifices they made to help me along my own very independent path. As a teacher I've experienced many out of time moments when the blessed trinity of information, delivery and understanding seem to gel within an entire group of people. Such moments are highly palpable, even blissful.
Every now and again a favorite student has to prematurely leave a course of study. This can be a great sadness for student, peers and teacher alike. I remember being contacted by a student, let's call her C, whom I'd taught for several years at a photographic college at which I'd previously worked. Due to a significant illness she had had to leave her studies and return to her parents home to recuperate. The nature of the illness dictated a slow, careful recovery in a peaceful, nurturing environment.
I remember at the time thinking that C had made a decision that was both correct and courageous. After all one's happiness and health are paramount. And formal studies are but one way to live a life through photography.
Heal Yourself, Heal The World
I very much believe in the notion that to heal the world you first need to heal yourself. In other words you can't live a productive, meaning-rich life and bring joy to others until you are happy and healthy yourself. Our modern world can be such a hard, difficult place and many do all they can just to survive. They spend the best years of their life swimming against the tide or, at best, treading water.
Learn To Say No
We're all presented with choices along life's path. But I've learned to understand that we often miss the point of those choices. Why take on a so-called promotion when the job promises elevated levels of stress, significantly longer working hours, a loss of personal freedom and leisure. Often the so-called financial rewards simply aren't there and the best way to climb the slippery ladder is, more often than not, to seek a promotion with another employer.
Learn to say no to stress, poorly disguised as opportunity, and say yes to life.
The Way Forward
Why spend your life running to keep up with a train that does little more than take us in circles? Maybe the right choice is the one outside of the box? Consider leaving the track and taking a nice, slow relaxed walk on the grass. And why not stop for an ice-cream and a snooze along the way? You may not make as much money but, with a more enlightened view of money and the cost it has on your life, you'd likely experience better health and fitness, more fulfilling relationships and an ability to see and experience more of the beauty and joy that surrounds us all.
The really smart people, the wise ones, are able to do just that. It takes courage, but only in the spaces between the madness of our modern world can you find time to really know yourself, breathe and begin to understand why you're actually here. I believe that we all have a purpose in life, but few of us take the necessary action to realize that purpose. And, for some, that action requires distancing ourselves from the rat race so as to find our own path through life.
Your Creativity Matters
Whether your creativity is expressed through writing, music or photography it's important to allocate the time, energy and finances required to nurture that talent. And, through the power of social media, why not share your journey and outcomes with the world. So, by healing yourself you can then contribute and make a positive difference to the health of so many other people and, as a consequence, to the world itself.
Depending on your generation and your upbringing you may or may not have been told that you are unique, talented and able to do anything you want. Of course that's only going to be true if you take action that moves you towards your goals on a very regular basis.
I once referred to a former student as a child of the universe who glows with a luminous quality. And I meant it!
The Game Of Life
My own journey has taught me that you don't actually acquire or achieve happiness. You experience it. I doubt that true happiness will come as a result of keeping your boss happy by entering data and moving numbers around in cyberspace. Happiness surrounds us all, but it's our state of mind, the way we perceive what's going on around us that determines our reality and, as a consequence, our ability to experience happiness.
Life is not the cards we are dealt, nor is it the way we play those cards. That's because such a game, by definition, results in winners and losers. The secret to life is the ability to determine what the cards actually are. We all have the ability to make an ace from a joker, a flush from a pair. And once we understand that fact the need to play the hand is replaced with the desire to share our cards, openly, with others.
Our Perception Determines Our Reality
Sadness, anxiety and even heartache are temporary if we decide that’s what they are. They are of the moment and how long we spend in that particular moment is completely up to us. But such emotional states are also necessary. Without loss how could we understand love, without despair we would undervalue bliss. No one lives in a bubble, the outside world does impact our life. But that doesn't mean we have to allow it to do so at the expense of our own happiness.
How To Manage A Horrible Boss
If you have a horrible boss you have 3 choices available to you:
1. Stay Mad, Miserable And Powerless
This is the easiest choice and many folks find a sense of identify and significance in identifying themselves as a victim. I know this from personal experience and it’s also one of the reasons why people choose to enter or remain in destructive relationships. There is power in being a victim and in being angry. But it’s a very negative, destructive power and I’m relieved to say that I’ve long since removed myself from dwelling in that space.
2. See Things From Their Perspective
Learn to better understand your bosses point of view and motivations. You may find you even pity them. As a result your relationship with them will change and you may find a sense of freedom from the stress you'd previously believed they were responsible for causing.
3. Get Out And Get On With Life
This takes real courage, which is why few of us, including our bosses, do it. But the reality is no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship. Get up and get out.
Us And Others
Last I heard was that C was well on the road to recovery. Indeed she’d developing into a very good photographer. It’s always rewarding when someone you know is able to realize their own potential and live a happy, meaningful life. And I'm so pleased that the light I saw in C, while temporarily dimmed, is burning brightly again.
Perhaps our shared purpose in life is to bring happiness into the lives of others. But to be able to do that in a sustained, meaningful way we first have to be happy ourselves. If there’s one salient piece of advice that you might want to take away from this post, that would be it.